1. Why New Year's Resolutions Don't Work
2. Some Great 2008 New Year's Resolutions
3. 2008 Cooking Classes
4. Wellness Packages for the New Year
5. New Pilates Class
1. Why New Year's Resolutions Don't Work
Why do you think most people don't follow through with their New Year's resolutions? How often have you met goals you have set for yourself?
I think the reason most people don't follow through with their goals is because:
(and just so we don't pretend this is other people's problem and not our own, I will use the word "you" to address those people.
http://www.myheartdances.com/newsletters/previous/2007/12-27-07_newyear.htm
1. You make your goal too general, and never think through the steps they will need to take to actually achieve it. You don't get out a roadmap, so you just end up doing the same thing you've always done...your same routine in life.
It's Meaningless
2. Your goal is, in actuality, meaningless to you.
a. You make a goal based on what you think other people want from you, or what would help you to fit into society's standards better. In other words, you don't think about something you really want that would actually make YOUR life better on a very practical level.
b. You make a goal based on a fantasy or dream that you've held onto, but that actually has no actual benefits. This is a bad example, but a still a good illustration to get across what I mean... *You've always dreamed of having your own house with a white picket fence in the suburbs. But the truth is, you love city life, hate doing housework, and have no interest in the commitment of a mortgage. So, you're kinda hanging onto some dream that you don't actually want... so you think you're procrastinating, when in actuality, you're doing exactly what you want to do. In other words... maybe it's time to reevaluate your dreams and see if they match who you really are. Would that think you think you want really make you happy?
Don't Know How To Do It
4. You simply don't know how to achieve the goal. Maybe it's time to admit that you don't have directions start asking questions.
Fear
5. or You're simply afraid.
What To Do
I think the first 2 examples are, by far, the most usual reasons that people don't follow through with their goals. Their goal is meaningless, or they don't have a roadmap.
These things are definitely fixable. Just take some time to think about what really means something to you, and then think about what it would actually take to get there.
Then ask yourself if you are willing to accept the challenges, work, and consequences to have this thing?
Would You Like to Achieve Your Goals?
If you'd like support in developing and reaching goals that match the person you really want to be and lifestyle you really want to have, please talk to me about private coaching. People who do really well in coaching with me are: career changers, artists, women who want to make changes around their health, and women who want to make changes in their relationships. melissa@myheartdances.com or 917-689-6530
2. Some Great 2008 New Year's Resolutions
Below are some great New Year's resolutions I heard about this year. One of them is mine. Can you guess which one?
1. To start practicing non-violent communication
*why I think it's great:
This person did not mean physical violence when she wrote this. She wrote it because most of us have no clue how to communicate, and when we've been hurt, we often communicate defensively or in order to hurt that person back. Neither of these ways of communicating actually help strengthen a relationship. Learning to express your feelings and ask for what you want in a non-threatening way are much more helpful.
2. No self-deprecating comments
*why I think it's great:
We are always putting ourselves down though words or guestures, and usually this doesn't help us to change. Even when we do mess up, self-deprecating comments don't express the truth of the situation or what we're actually feeling. Usually we use them to cover something up about ourselves that we are afraid to admit, or are afraid that someone else is going to disapprove of. Another reason we do it is because we think it will help us change, but this never works (at least I've never seen it work!). It's better to be honest about what you're really trying to say or express than to try and protect yourself through putting yourself down.
3. No purchasing anything for gifts, everything must be made or a hand-me-down
*why I think it's great:
Consumerism is overrated... Does anyone give meaningful gifts anymore? This kind of goal can help you to spend less money and really think about and put time into gifts for people you care about. It can also force you to share great things that you still have but aren't using. *okay... this one was mine! :-)
3. 2008 Cooking Classes
Organic Food, Organic FUN, and Good Company
"Thank you for sharing your home, knowledge, great recipes, and warm friends. There's something very intimate about creating and sharing a meal with others. It was interesting to learn about your holistic health background and cook with new ingredients. I look forward to taking more classes with you." - Heather
January 8 - 6:30 (Tuesday)
Sweet Potato Miso Soup
Buckwheat w/
Tahini Sauce
Sauteed Swiss Chard w/ Portabello Mushrooms
January 20 - 11am (Sunday)
Creamy Tofu Soup w/ Mustard Greens
Roasted Delicata Squash
Basic Brown Jasmine Rice
Vegan Peanut Butter Pie
February 7 - 6:30 (Thursday)
Veggie Quiche
Red Wine Vinaigrette Potatoes
Steamed Eggplant w/
Sweet Miso Dressing
February 24 - 11am (Sunday)
Thai Peanut Soup
Vegetable Spring Rolls
Lime Peanut Sauce
Coconut Millet
Pre-register Today - Only $50 per class -
Gift Certificates Available
All classes are held on the Upper West Side
Class is from 6:30 until 8:30 unless otherwise noted.
All classes include the following:
*Hands-on instruction
*Meet new people
*Learn cool facts and tips about the food you're preparing
*Get healthy tips
*Receive a copy of the recipe to take home
*Enjoy a DELICIOUS meal at the end of class!
Made by The Fabulous You!
Please contact Melissa at melissa@myheartdances.com for more details and to register, or call 917-689-6530
**Classes are fun, relaxed, and not intimidating! They are great for beginners!
**Private classes are also available, more details at: http://www.myheartdances.com/services/cook_class.htm
4. Wellness Packages for the New Year
The Lifestyle Makeover
I don't know what I'm doing with my life. I'm not satisfied with my career, my relationships are not going anywhere. I'm not really where I want to be.
Sound like you? This package will cover career, relationships, spirituality, and health. You'll gain a stronger hold on your identity, and find satisfaction moving forward towards discovering and completing personal goals and projects.
6 sessions - $675
The Nutrition and Health Makeover
I don't eat what I should, nor do I stick to an exercise plan. I'm not even sure if I know what I should eat! I find myself snacking on junk food and eating poorly when I'ma t work or traveling. I want to have more energy and be fit. I want to grow old healthy!
This package is for the typical New Yorker. You want to be conscious about your health, but you are not making it happen. You want more energy and to eat better. In this plan, we'll get down to the nitty gritty about what is getting in the way for you, and how you can achieve a healthier you without cramping your lifestyle. We'll create a therapeutic lifestyle plan that works just for you!
3 sessions - $375
The Weight Loss Makeover
I'm tired of not sticking to my diets. I'm ready to make a commitment to my health. I want to see my real body underneath this cushion. I want to feel good when I walk down the street and enter a room.
Sticking to a weight loss plan is hard. No doubt about it! This program is designed to get you off the dieting cycle and get you on a plan to achieve results. It's for individuals who are ready to make a change and commit to giving this gift to themselves. No more quick fix attempts. This is the real deal!
10 sessions - $1125
I Am - Strategic Solutions for Women in their 20's
I love working with young women! It's a time in life where you are testing your own identity and power in this world, yet sometimes you feel conflicted by the pressure of your parents' and peers' ideas about what track you should be on. You have your own mind and you want to use it... but sometimes you're not sure about your different opinions. This program deals with self-image, self-respect, confidence, and effective decision making.
5 sessions - $575 (sliding scale available for this program, please call or e-mail me for details).
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All programs can be adjusted to fit your specific needs. Number of sessions can be increased or decreased based on your goals.
Payment plans available.
Contact me with any inquiries
melissa@myheartdances.com 917-689-6530
"For whatever reason, people are so inclined to spend money on a health club membership and working out their body, but when it comes to working on the mind and emotions, people are more hesitant. I remember the session that we had together and all of the advise and direction that you provided was truly excellent. You really made a very positive impact on my life and I can tell that you are exceptionally gifted in this area. You have a very intuitive sense and are able to put all the pieces together very quickly and correctly. These are very good skills for the type of coaching that you do, and I hope more people will see how they can benefit from the coaching that you provide." -J.R.
5. Pilates w/ Charlotte Blake
Charlotte Blake just started a new Pilates class at 6:30 on Monday nights on Broadway at 26th St.
More info at: www.charlotteblake.blogspot.com
Charlotte Blake is offering a special to myheartdances subscribers.
That's 20% off the regular price of sessions with her.
Charlotte is a certified personal trainer, Pilates instructor, and holds a BFA in dance.
I have worked with her in the past, receiving private ballet instruction. I love her! She has a wonderful presence and is a very good teacher.
More information at www.charlotteblake.blogspot.com |
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