1. Burned Out? - Making Room for "Me Time"
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1.Burned Out? - Making Room for "Me Time"
Do you ever feel like your work life bleeds into your home life, if not actual work - thoughts about work or stress about work. Do you ever feel like all you are doing is running around from one thing to the next thing, and in the few moments that you have to sit and do nothing, you feel either worried about all the things you "should" be doing, or you simply feel guilty for sitting and doing nothing?
I think most New Yorkers relate to this. Most of us are so busy it's hard to relax, even in the few minutes of downtime that might actually come our way. Not only that, if you have a project you do want to work on, sometimes you never get to it because you feel like you don't have the time.
Not Healthy
This is really challenging, and it's not a healthy track. it's healthy to be busy and to love your work, but not healthy to never take time for yourself.
Now, when I say time for yourself, I mean time that is uninterrupted by guilt and lingering thoughts about the things you "should" be doing. I'm talking about time where you can just enjoy the present, where you can get reconnected with yourself, and simply enjoy being.
In a busy life, whether it's because of work or a lot of friends, you can't always just wait for this free time to find it's way to you. You have to make it happen.
Make the Time
What I often suggest to clients, and what I usually have to do for myself, is schedule downtime. It can be 1 hour, or it can be 1 day. The only rule is that during this time that you have set aside for yourself, you are not allowed to worry about any of the other demands on your life. This time is for you to enjoy. Maybe that means reading your favorite book, taking a walk by the river, or working on a hobby that relaxes you. You should treat the time just as you would any appointment you would make with another person. You don't want to cancel it unless it's an emergency, and you don't want to let other people interrupt it with their demands.
Now, some of you are not planners. You like to be spontaneous. And I respect that, but you may want to try this advice - even though it will require you to plan, because it may actually allow you more freedom to be spontaneous in the long run - and actually make room for your spontaneity to be sparked. You show up for your appointment with yourself - and then you get to decide what happens next.
Procrastination
Even if you feel like having down time is not the problem. Say you come home everyday and sit in front of the t.v., but you never feel relaxed. I think this concept will help you too. Schedule in some time to work on a project that brings you joy, or that you've been wanting to work on for a long time - project could be art, writing, reading, anything. Your M.O. is to go home and watch t.v., but if you put in your calendar that you are working on XYZ project Thursday night from 6-9pm, you may see your procrastination problem walking away packing.
Enjoy the rest of your week! BTW, we're subletting my roommate's bedrrom for the month of September. Heart of the UWS. 1150 for the month. E-mail me if you are interested.
Melissa
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