A Balanced Perspective Weekly
September 23, 2008

Life Coaching, Professional Women's Groups,
Organic Cooking Classes, and Inspiration

MyHeartDances^(TM) was developed to support individuals in living from their heart and going after what they want in life. Our mission is to support you in deciding to be honest with yourself and be honest with others so you can face your fears and go after your dreams to "let your heart dance!" www.myheartdances.com

1. Focusing on the Negative or the Postive?
2. Women's Groups
3. Featured Life Coaching Package
4. Registered to Vote?

1. Focusing on the Negative or the Positive?

Hi everyone! Man! I have had a tough week. You know, one of those weeks when you are working hard and dealing with a tremendous amount of stress and pressure, and on top of it all, it seems like everything is going wrong. Something you needed immediately doesn't work; someone is mad at you; you're running late because the subway stalled in between stops; you get in a fight with your sister, and on and on and on...

If you are like me at all, you might find that you carry all of that heaviness around with you. You think about all of the things that are going wrong, and anything going right falls between the cushions of the couch--in other words, they're out of sight! It seems like you just can't get a break!

Dwelling on the Negative

Sometimes I get in these modes where I start dwelling on the things that aren't working right and the things that haven't worked right. And thinking about them makes me feel bad, sad, angry, or all three. And yet, there can be three times as many circumstances going on in my life that are fantastic, even worth skipping over! But somehow, I forget them.

Well, last night I snapped out of it. I realized that life is far too short to not enjoy the good things because someone is mad at me, or because I did something embarrassing, or because some expectation I had wasn't met. No one knows what tomorrow brings, and most of what we worry over will never make that significant of a difference in our life anyway, and the things that will make a significant difference--well, worrying is not going to make them better, that's for sure.

Making the List

So last night I went home and listed all of the things that are going great in my life. Boy! That felt terrific. And today, I have been CHOOSING to think about those things instead of the things that make me feel bad. And ya know what? My perspective changed. I realized that the things I thought were so bad are not really that bad at all. When I started thinking about the positive things, I saw that I was making the bad things much much bigger than they actually are.

It's amazing how simply training yourself to think differently and choosing what you focus on, really has a tremendous affect on the way you feel throughout the day.

My private coaching sessions are designed to empower you to make more choices in line with your goals and desires in life. Contact me with any questions: melissa@myheartdances.com or 917-689-6530

Also, space is available for both of the October women's groups! E-mail me if you'd like to join us!

Melissa

2. Women's Groups - Young Women, Professionals, and Weight Loss...

A. Women 20-34

We just started this Sunday with an amazing group of girls! I am so excited about the future meetings!

This group is for young women who want to build more confidence in their own choices about what they are doing with their life. This is a time when we often ask questions about what we really want to do and if we are making the right choices when it comes to relationships, career, where we want to live, etc. Our parents and friends often try to influence us, but in the end, we have to decide.

Group meets on Sundays from 11:00 - 12:30

$75 per month. Month to month.

If you are interested, please contact me: melissa@myheartdances.com

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B. Women's Professional Group

This is my longstanding Wednesday night women's group. There are women in this group from their mid 20's to 50's. We meet every Wednesday night from 6:45 - 8:15. It's a small group and we have built great relationships. We would love for you to join us.

I am taking registration for October. October group begins Wed. Oct. 8

Our women's group meeting last Halloween

Upcoming sessions are:

Sept. 24 - Setting goals for the fall

Oct. 8 - Self-esteem and Body Image Night

Oct. 15 - Romantic Relationships and Dating in the City.

The cost is $75 per month.

Contact me if you are interested: melissa@myheartdances.com

3. Featured Life Coaching Package - The Lifestyle Makeover

I Am - Strategic Solutions for Women in their 20's

I love working with young women! It's a time in life where you are testing your own identity and power in this world, yet sometimes you feel conflicted by the pressure of your parents' and peers' ideas about what track you should be on. You have your own mind and you want to use it... but sometimes you're not sure about your different opinions. This program deals with self-image, self-respect, confidence, and effective decision making.

5 sessions - $575 (sliding scale available for this program, please call or e-mail me fo details).

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All programs can be adjusted to fit your specific needs. Number of sessions can be increased or decreased based on your goals.

Payment plans available.

Individual sessions without the purchase of a package are available.
To find out more about coaching: http://www.myheartdances.com/services/private_couns.htm

Contact me with any inquiries

melissa@myheartdances.com 917-689-6530

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