1. Feel Like You're the Only One Struggling?
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1. Feel Like You're the Only One Struggling?
Does it ever seem like life is so much easier for the people around you than for you? Do other people seem to be successfully navigating the ins and outs of life while you feel like you are struggling just to keep up the pace?
Maybe it's in your career advancement, in romantic relationships, in your creative pursuits, in your eating and exercise habits, or in your finances...
You feel like nothing is going right for you or that other people have some secret about life that was never told to you.
A Wise Old Saying
About ten years ago, someone said something to me about how we view others that has stuck with me ever since: "We compare our insides to everyone else's outsides."
We take everything that's going on with us internally, and all of the life issues that we are trying to manage, and we look at another person from a distance, and they appear to have it made. Everything just seems to be going smoothly for them. We often don't see their struggles, or their problems, or the difficulties that they face/ or have faced. By comparing ourselves in this way, we feel more alone and alienated in our own struggles.
But the truth is that life isn't easy for most of us.
Looking at Others
Sometimes I still fall prey to looking at others and thinking life is working out perfectly for them, and that if I had made the choices they made, or if I could be as smart as them, or if I had the money they had, or if I was as pretty as them, or creative as them, then I wouldn't be struggling so much. And then when I actually sit down and talk to that person and learn about their life, I find out that their story is not that simple. It was only I who imagined it so. Most people are dealing with something that is gripping, or they have a story about how they got to where they are that involves much more difficulty and pain than you thought.
Life is hard. And we don't always have the opportunity to hear the stories of the people who we think "have it made." And many of those people don't want to share their stories. It's either not appropriate for them to tell you, or it would make them feel too vulnerable. And that's understandable.
Choose Acceptance or Change
But for you, remember this the next time you start to compare yourself to someone else. Maybe you aren't seeing the whole picture. Stop for a moment and get recentered. And think about either accepting yourself just as you are, or working on the aspects of yourself that need change. For most of us, comparing ourselves just makes us feel bad and makes us do less, not more for our individual situation.
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Private Coaching and Young Women's Group
If you want to make a serious move forward in your relationships, your creative pursuits, or a goal for your future (or you just want to figure out what to do with your future) please contact me at: melissa@myheartdances.com or 917-689-6530
We would love more great women in their 20's and 30's to join us for the Sunday young women's group! Contact me for more info!
Melissa
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