Counseling to Improve Connection, Pleasure, and Sexual Well-Being

(In-person therapy in NYC; virtual therapy in California, Florida, Upstate NY, and Long Island)

Sex Therapy in NYC for Singles and Couples

You desire deep connection and pleasure.

But you’re not quite sure how to make that work or how to recover something you once had.

Navigating sex and sexuality throughout life is rarely an easy and smooth journey. Many people find that past relationships, shame, religious or cultural beliefs, violating sexual experiences, or current relationship challenges keep them from enjoying the kind of intimacy they are capable of.

I love helping clients untangle the ways in which stereotypes, religious beliefs, or past sexual experiences have a negative impact on how they feel about themselves and their current or desired romantic and sexual connections.

Sex therapy can help with:

  • Creating a sex life worth wanting

  • Resolving shame associated with past sexual experiences

  • Working through limiting beliefs you grew up with in a way that still aligns with your values

  • Rekindling physical intimacy in a long-term relationship

  • Mismatched desire in a relationship

  • Anxiety about sex

  • Avoidance of sex

  • Fears associated with intimacy

  • Struggles with body image

  • Pain during sex

  • Difficulty achieving orgasm

  • Delayed or premature ejaculation

  • Chronic illness or cancer treatment that impacts your enjoyment of sex

You can feel more free and at ease.

I aim to help you work through these challenges in a way that feels empowered, authentic, and aligned with your values.

If you’re struggling with something that’s affecting your sexual experiences or your sense of sexuality, I invite you to reach out.

A brief phone consultation is a chance for us to talk through what’s going on, answer your questions, and see if we’re a good fit to work together.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Sex Therapy

  • I’m currently completing advanced training in sex therapy through the Sexual Health Alliance, which takes an intensely sex positive approach to sex therapy. Meaning, my training is focused on understanding not just how to address problems, but to see that many problems are healthy responses to sex that is simply not enjoyable. My core value in sex therapy is to help my clients be more connected to their bodies and to create sex worth wanting.

  • Examples of the kinds of issues we might talk about are:

    Experiences of pain with sex

    Low libido

    Difficulty achieving orgasm

    Shame associated with how you feel about yourself

    Shame associated with a religious upbringing or beliefs

    Erectile dysfunction

    Insecurity about your body

    Performance anxiety

    Side effects of antidepressants or hormonal contraception

    Changes that come with perimenopause/menopause

    Feeling resentment or disconnection from your partner

    Mismatched libido or desire

    Trouble using condoms confidently

    Body image and sexual self-worth

    Curiosity about or support with polyamory, kink, or non-monogamy

  • Yes. It is actually a wonderful opportunity to work on healing those experiences.

  • You don’t need to have a specific label or diagnosis to seek support. If something about your sexual experience, desire, or body feels confusing, distressing, or just not right, we can talk about it. Therapy can help you understand what’s going on and figure out what you need to feel more comfortable, confident, and connected.

  • A lot of people worry about this. You’re not alone! I know these are sensitive topics that can make people feel vulnerable. We will go at your pace. Past clients have described me as very easy to talk to and non-judgmental.

  • Absolutely! I do regular therapy in addition to sex therapy. And emotional struggles are often connected to sexual ones.

  • You don’t need to be in a relationship to start sex therapy.I do a lot of work with individuals who are not in relationships.

  • Not at all. If you just want to connect better to your body and improve your sex life or experiences of pleasure, that is enough to start sex therapy. Sex is an important part of our lives, an area that is worth understanding how to improve our potential.

  • Sex therapy helps you understand and learn about your body and it’s normal and natural responses. Education is often all that’s needed to address problems. Culture, upbringing, media, religion, school, and past experiences can all contribute to ideas about sex and our bodies that are inaccurate and can cause a disconnect between our bodies and the kind of sex we hope to have.

    If education isn’t quite enough to solve the problems, we will add exercises and techniques meant to improve sexual pleasure and reduce problems that are interfering. You work on these exercises on your own or with a partner between sessions.

    In some cases, more intensive therapy becomes important, because sometimes deeper issues are interfering with our ability to address the problems. This can become a meaningful period of internal exploration.

  • Sex therapy never involves sex or touch with the therapist. The therapist will talk with you to resolve or process concerns and where appropriate provide education or information on techniques that are most likely to be beneficial, and you will engage in the exercises on your own or with your partner(s). Sex therapy can also involve talking through internal conflicts, conflicts affecting your sexual relationship with your partner, or help process difficult feelings associated with your sexuality or sexual experiences.

  • Absolutely! I proudly welcome members of the LGBTQI+ community. I especially love working with individuals from this community who come from evangelical Christian backgrounds and need understanding and/or support associated with this.