Herpes Counseling & Support in New York City
(In person therapy in NYC, virtual in CA, FL, Upstate NY, and Long Island)
Life Just Threw A Curve Ball
I’m so glad you’re here.
If you were just diagnosed, you are probably trying to make sense out of how this happened. You feel like you lost something meaningful, a sense of freedom and pride. You wonder if you will ever feel normal again.
This wasn’t supposed to happen.
If you were diagnosed a while ago, maybe you are here because you’re tired of feeling down about it. You’re tired of avoiding and want to move forward and feel better.
There Is A Way Forward
I know it’s hard to imagine right now, but you can feel like yourself again.
You can get your self-esteem back, date confidently, and enjoy sex and relationships.
I love helping people find their way through their diagnosis and come out on the other side feeling an even deeper connection with themselves and more confidence than they had before the diagnosis.
You are Not Alone
I’ve been working with professionals and students diagnosed with herpes for almost 25 years: lawyers, healthcare providers, academics, people in finance, creatives… I point this out because it doesn’t fit the stereotype. Herpes is more common than most of us think and it can truly happen to anyone. You are not alone.
I have walked alongside many people who find that their self-esteem, clarity about who they are, enjoyment of relationships, and ability to go after what they want in life actually improve from what it was before their diagnosis.
I would love to help you sort through your diagnosis and feel like yourself again. I will provide education and insight into how others have navigated this, and I will work with you to rebuild confidence, feel good about yourself again, and address any anxiety, depression, or other mental health-related symptoms you might be experiencing along with your diagnosis.
Learn more about my services for women and men below.
You Don’t Have To Do This Alone
You’ve already taken a brave step by being here. I’d love to talk about how I can support you.
Schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation and let’s begin: Contact Me Here
Frequently Asked Questions
Is it possible to find someone who will still want to date me?
Yes. Absolutely. Many people in your shoes have found loving relationships. Therapy can help you work through the fear and begin believing that again.
How do I even begin to tell someone I have herpes?
We’ll go over disclosure strategies, ways to communicate with clarity and confidence, and how to navigate rejection (if it happens) without it destroying your self-worth.
I feel like I’ve lost all confidence. Can that come back?
Yes. Therapy is a place to rebuild from the inside out, so you can feel good in your own skin again and remember that your diagnosis does not define you.
I feel too ashamed to even say the word “herpes.” What if I can’t talk about it yet?
That’s completely okay. We’ll start wherever you are. You can share as much or as little as you feel ready to, and I’ll meet you with warmth and zero judgment.
Will I have to settle now?
This is a painful but very common belief and one we’ll explore together. You are allowed to want what you really want and there’s no reason not to go after that.
Do I have to be dating to benefit from therapy?
Not at all. Many of my clients aren’t ready to date yet. Counseling after a herpes diagnosis can help you process your emotions, rebuild confidence, and decide what feels right for you, in your own time.
How do I schedule a session?
You can schedule a free 15-minute consultation on my contact page. It’s easy, confidential, and a low-pressure way to see if this feels right for you.
If you want to meet other amazing women like you, check out the herpes therapy group for women.
Blog Posts on Herpes
Let's Talk About Herpes Part 1: Rejection (It Might Not Really Be About Herpes)
Let's Talk About Herpes Part 2: When To Tell A Partner
Let's Talk About Herpes Part 3: Common Questions Women Diagnosed with Genital Herpes Ask
COUNSELING SERVICES - WHO I HELP
You may look like you’re holding it all together — but inside, you feel anxious, stuck, or uncertain about how to move forward. Maybe you're tired of overthinking, tired of performing, tired of feeling like it’s all on you. In therapy, we’ll create space for you—your real feelings and your real thoughts and worries about what is going on. Together, we can explore the deeper patterns that affect your self-worth, relationships, sexuality, and confidence — and help you reconnect with or define your values so you can move forward with more clarity, agency, and trust in yourself.
A herpes diagnosis can feel isolating, overwhelming, and disorienting. But it doesn't have to define you. I offer a compassionate space to process the shock, shame, and confusion — and to help you reconnect with your sense of self, sexuality, and self-worth. Whether this is all new or something you’ve been quietly carrying for years, you don’t have to face it alone.
Learn more about counseling for women with herpes, counseling for men with herpes, or the therapy group for women with herpes.
Sexuality is deeply personal — and often layered with thoughts, feelings, fears, and desires we’ve never spoken aloud. You may be struggling with low desire, pain during sex, difficulty achieving orgasm, performance anxiety, or changes related to perimenopause or menopause. You may simply want to understand yourself more fully. I offer a supportive, nonjudgmental space to explore these concerns at your own pace — wherever you are in your journey.